Many couples can tell you stories about when they first met or started dating. These are sometimes the “love at first sight” stories. For my husband and I, it all started with a handshake.
We met when we were 14 at a residential school for gifted students. Neither one of us fit in the cliques in the school. We both ended up as part of a group of kids that just didn’t fit any of the molds. Our way of hanging out was to sit in a room together while one of us played a computer game and the rest did homework. We would take turns on the computer. About the only interactions were discussions about the game and school work. After about a year of spending time near each other, E got suspended, likely for something to do with the quirky way his brain works not fitting what the school wanted. While he was gone, I realized that I missed having him around. When he got back, we sat down and actually talked for a change. We discussed the fact that almost everyone in the school thought that we were dating even though neither one of us had even considered it. We decided to give it a try and see what happened. So, we shook hands to agree that we were dating.
That was almost 25 years ago now.
We now have two wonderful boys. P is 11 and A is 8. We are all quirky. P was diagnosed with Asperger’s when he was 8, and the diagnosis was changed to autism when he was 10. A was diagnosed with ADHD at 5 1/2. After P’s diagnosis, my husband, E was also diagnosed with Asperger’s. I have been diagnosed with bipolar, generalized anxiety disorder, and ADHD. My therapist and I also feel that I qualify for the Asperger’s diagnosis as well.
I love my quirky family, and I would not want them to be any other way.
To think…it all started with a handshake.